#1 Predictor of Well-Being

I’m starting new workout, sleep, and mindfulness routines this year. It’s taken me a week to get it going. Why? Because I didn’t account for family still being in my house until now. I wasn’t aware of the impact young grandchildren and three...

Resolutions (goals) vs. Identity

We tend to set new goals at the beginning, end, or anniversaries of time. Mondays,​ first of month, New Years, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. A New Year’s resolution is usually over by January 7th. Why? What is the difference between these two statements?...

From The Inside Out

Jesse was fit to be tied. As Ian, her husband of 4 years, sat down for dinner from a long day at work, he wasn’t prepared for the vitriol of a shunned wife. “We’re not going to the family Christmas party tomorrow night, Ian. I don’t care what you say.” Jesse passed...

Primary Questions

The pathway into the light, starts with the ability to answer primary questions. There are primary questions and there are secondary questions. Not all questions are equal and primary questions always precede secondary questions. In this process, there are three...

Our Stories

Author Michael Lewis articulates his thoughts on the stories we tell ourselves: “As I’ve gotten older…I could not help but notice the effect on people of the stories they told about themselves. If you listen to people, if you just sit and listen, you’ll...

Self-Help Junkie or Life-Long Learner

Mirna is a brilliant patent attorney who voraciously consumes self-help books and podcasts on family relationships, marriage, and parenting like it’s toilet paper during a pandemic. She can explain everybody’s problems, including her husband’s, her...

Your Persona or Stage Mask

Ben was ready when his sister, Brit, greeted her boyfriend at the front door. Timmy was sketchy according to Ben, but Ben was on a mission. His assignment was to observe and name Timmy’s behavior as a psychology class assignment. No judging allowed, only naming. His...

Shadow vs. Sin

Shadow vs. Sin I grew up in a Christian community, that by most standards was/is considered strict or rigid. To an adolescent, going to bed before it’s dark is rigid. My mother had a loose relationship with rules except when it came to religion. My grandparents were...